7 Tips on Advice


Getting good advice is a tough thing these days— we have more information available, but it is not necessarily better. The problem with advice is that the taker of advice is the one who will face the consequences of their own actions, not the giver. So, here is my advice on advice. 

  1. Go beyond the noise. Some advice is broadcast loudly, but the volume doesn’t ensure reliability. Investments are often hyped to drive up stock, but it doesn’t mean they will perform well long term. Find a quiet, successful person and watch them. 
  2. The good advice often costs something. If you need legal advice, I’d steer clear of Redit forums. Just because some guy’s brother-in-law in Texas did a thing doesn’t mean it will work for someone in Oregon. If it must be done right, pay for a professional. Hiring an experienced consultant can save time and money by not having to redo it or pay a fine.
  3. If the outcome is important, then you’ll want information that is accurate and timely. You should to get the new map, updated travel guides and this year’s writing guide. Otherwise you could end up on a dead end, at a closed attraction or getting cancelled. 
  4. Look for a consensus. Some advice works well by the numbers. If an item on Amazon gets thousands of good reviews, it might be worth it. If there’s less than a dozen reviews, it might indicate a sketchy seller reposting to avoid bad publicity. I read both the five star and one star reviews to check for patterns. Was the bad review about shipping or is the product garbage?
  5. Stick to standard. Tim and I have been doing some house repairs and we often watch three or four different people on Youtube do the same thing. If the technique is similar, it is probably a standard practice.  We had an Ikea sink and all the parts were in European sizes, finally we replaced it with a standard-sized one where all the parts could be found locally. Things are cheaper and easier to find in regular, expected sizes. 
  6. Good people can give bad advice. This one is tricky and a little heartbreaking. Yes, it worked for Aunt Susan, but that was forty years ago and circumstances may be different. You have to cross-reference personal experience with verified sources. 
  7. There’s some advice that you just can’t take. When our first was a baby, we took her to an award winning, published pediatrician who insisted that I always lay the baby on her back to sleep.  She would not do it. She always woke up kicking and flailing.  So I put her on her side and prayed that she wouldn’t die. She didn’t, and now I have seen more recommendations for side sleeping.  

My conclusion is that life always includes a fair number of risks. We should look for good information to lessen those risks, but we cannot avoid all mistakes and mess-ups. I recommend pausing before making big leaps, and acknowledge that every decision has its pros and cons. Don’t avoid going after things that you really want because of what could go wrong.  It sometimes hurts to try, but it hurts worse to always wonder if you could have made it, but never pursued the opportunity. Finally, balance long and short term outcomes. Some choices pay off quickly and others are long term investments, both are okay.

There are many paths to get through life.

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