Now that I have been published for a minute, someone has invited me to teach a group of seniors about writing memoirs. This blog notwithstanding, I’ve never published one, but I have read a ton of them.
To get your memoir published these days, you have to have one of three things; already be famous, have done something notable, or tell a good story. If you self-publish, you can write about whatever you want, but it has to connect with your audience and so don’t get drunk on your own nostalgia.
There are a ton of celebrity memoirs in bookstores because they sell well. Most are disappointing, but it’s not their fault. If the celebrity is an actor, they’re probably known for a particular role. The problem is that their character isn’t them. I have read two memoirs from actresses from the show Gilmore Girls. The show is about mothers and daughters, and I am both. Unfortunately, both memoirs included a lot about the entertainment industry, which is not that relatable to my life. I do not care about who was at which Hollywood party.
A notable exception for actresses writing memoirs is Mindy Kaling. She is a professional storyteller, so her book is also funny and entertaining. There are several actors and actresses memoirs who write harrowing tales of casting couches, eating disorders and mental illnesses if that’s your thing.
Musicians that write their own songs have a strong chance at connection. If their song made you feel something then, perhaps the story behind it will too. Also, they’ve already proven themselves good with words. Athletes publish a surprising amount of books. They check two boxes: they are already famous and usually had to overcome a lot to achieve their rank, a key to good storytelling.
Self-help authors promise to improve my life, and I enjoy stories that capture important events or times. Sometimes I read stories for inspiration and problem solving.
I guess, if you are interested in writing about your own experiences, keep your audience in mind. What did you go through that they can learn from? Don’t just list out what you did or where you went, but describe how those experiences and places made you feel. Readers want to emotionally connect. If they are younger than you, don’t assume they will be familiar with people and events that happened before they were born.
Don’t only describe accomplishments, but include your mistakes as well. If you have any insight into why you messed up, please don’t hesitate to share. If you’re writing for friends and family, then your story can be part of your legacy and the next generation’s inheritance.
